I… I'm just going to take a wild guess here. If you're underage (e.g. you're still in high school or below), he's probably being really overprotective and making sure you're not wasting your time on the computer. My dad was like that once — I had this addiction with the computer in which I spent literally every waking moment with my eyes glued on the screen. He and my mom always tried to restrict it, e.g. trying to give me time limits (two hours a day), but it never worked. Until one night I was awake at 2 AM on the computer and my dad had enough. He unplugged my monitor and locked it in his wardrobe. It seemed extreme, at the time, but I was extreme, as well. We fought a lot and our relationship was really bad at that time — I was fifteen or sixteen.
I'm not going to tell you to go against your dad to "chase your dreams" or anything like that because I'm not as idealistic and I honestly do think that most parents want the best for their children — only "the best" is what they think as the best. Their generation and ours are drastically different. I'm also not telling you to stop fighting him because you do have a right to have your own goals and wants and dreams and whatnot. What I'd do if I were you… I would stick it out and wait until I'm "free". I used to hate being restricted and all that and there were only two thoughts that keep me sane: one, the knowledge that they're doing it for me, and two, the time left until college, where I can live on my own and basically govern my own life. That's my way of coping… I'm just sharing here. XD
Do you like the sciences and maths? I've always been more of a social sciences person and my dad is, too, so when I finally found the career direction I want to take and it seems stable enough, he was pretty supportive. If you do not like it and can't stand it and have a preferable option, you can try discussing it with him, I suppose. From what I've read I'm getting the impression that he really just wants you to have a good, stable life — possibly one that's better from his. It's a stereotype I've sort of noticed from Asian parents; the whole "children should be better than parents" in every sense of the word.
No, no family in this world is perfect. Some may seem preferable than others, but no family in this world is perfect. Just… please, don't lose hope. I am rooting for you! :)
LONG AGAIN. Damn, I really do babble a lot. Ahem. Thank you for reading every word, thank you for sharing this with me. I'm so honored and I will keep you in my thoughts! ♥
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Date: 2010-11-20 05:43 am (UTC)I… I'm just going to take a wild guess here. If you're underage (e.g. you're still in high school or below), he's probably being really overprotective and making sure you're not wasting your time on the computer. My dad was like that once — I had this addiction with the computer in which I spent literally every waking moment with my eyes glued on the screen. He and my mom always tried to restrict it, e.g. trying to give me time limits (two hours a day), but it never worked. Until one night I was awake at 2 AM on the computer and my dad had enough. He unplugged my monitor and locked it in his wardrobe. It seemed extreme, at the time, but I was extreme, as well. We fought a lot and our relationship was really bad at that time — I was fifteen or sixteen.
I'm not going to tell you to go against your dad to "chase your dreams" or anything like that because I'm not as idealistic and I honestly do think that most parents want the best for their children — only "the best" is what they think as the best. Their generation and ours are drastically different. I'm also not telling you to stop fighting him because you do have a right to have your own goals and wants and dreams and whatnot. What I'd do if I were you… I would stick it out and wait until I'm "free". I used to hate being restricted and all that and there were only two thoughts that keep me sane: one, the knowledge that they're doing it for me, and two, the time left until college, where I can live on my own and basically govern my own life. That's my way of coping… I'm just sharing here. XD
Do you like the sciences and maths? I've always been more of a social sciences person and my dad is, too, so when I finally found the career direction I want to take and it seems stable enough, he was pretty supportive. If you do not like it and can't stand it and have a preferable option, you can try discussing it with him, I suppose. From what I've read I'm getting the impression that he really just wants you to have a good, stable life — possibly one that's better from his. It's a stereotype I've sort of noticed from Asian parents; the whole "children should be better than parents" in every sense of the word.
No, no family in this world is perfect. Some may seem preferable than others, but no family in this world is perfect. Just… please, don't lose hope. I am rooting for you! :)
LONG AGAIN. Damn, I really do babble a lot. Ahem. Thank you for reading every word, thank you for sharing this with me. I'm so honored and I will keep you in my thoughts! ♥