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Re: 8D
Date: 2010-11-20 05:43 am (UTC)I… I'm just going to take a wild guess here. If you're underage (e.g. you're still in high school or below), he's probably being really overprotective and making sure you're not wasting your time on the computer. My dad was like that once — I had this addiction with the computer in which I spent literally every waking moment with my eyes glued on the screen. He and my mom always tried to restrict it, e.g. trying to give me time limits (two hours a day), but it never worked. Until one night I was awake at 2 AM on the computer and my dad had enough. He unplugged my monitor and locked it in his wardrobe. It seemed extreme, at the time, but I was extreme, as well. We fought a lot and our relationship was really bad at that time — I was fifteen or sixteen.
I'm not going to tell you to go against your dad to "chase your dreams" or anything like that because I'm not as idealistic and I honestly do think that most parents want the best for their children — only "the best" is what they think as the best. Their generation and ours are drastically different. I'm also not telling you to stop fighting him because you do have a right to have your own goals and wants and dreams and whatnot. What I'd do if I were you… I would stick it out and wait until I'm "free". I used to hate being restricted and all that and there were only two thoughts that keep me sane: one, the knowledge that they're doing it for me, and two, the time left until college, where I can live on my own and basically govern my own life. That's my way of coping… I'm just sharing here. XD
Do you like the sciences and maths? I've always been more of a social sciences person and my dad is, too, so when I finally found the career direction I want to take and it seems stable enough, he was pretty supportive. If you do not like it and can't stand it and have a preferable option, you can try discussing it with him, I suppose. From what I've read I'm getting the impression that he really just wants you to have a good, stable life — possibly one that's better from his. It's a stereotype I've sort of noticed from Asian parents; the whole "children should be better than parents" in every sense of the word.
No, no family in this world is perfect. Some may seem preferable than others, but no family in this world is perfect. Just… please, don't lose hope. I am rooting for you! :)
LONG AGAIN. Damn, I really do babble a lot. Ahem. Thank you for reading every word, thank you for sharing this with me. I'm so honored and I will keep you in my thoughts! ♥
Re: 8D
Date: 2010-11-20 07:57 pm (UTC)I don't do things that I know are impossible. That's what makes me rooted to the ground and (dulldulldull) person in real life. Simply, I am not a risk-taker. I don't plan on becoming a writer, but it wouldn't hurt to do it part-time, right?
I must seem incredibly hypocritical. Writing all that in the previous post and now telling you I don't dream of becoming the next J.K Rowling. It is flat-out a one in a million chance. Which I won't probably be taking. =)
Science and Math. Math and Science. I, think, perhaps, maybe, am...*good* at those things. (I'm that nerdy little Asian girl that seems to fit the Asian stereotype /really/ well) Math comes easily for me, and science too. (I can't explain without telling you my age, so I'll just skip that. ^^)
But, then again, I don't care much for those things. I haven't really found a career path yet...That's the cause of most of my rifts with my dad lately. Science to my family means, like, biology and life and...yeah.
Hey, being able to write so much (and meaning it too) is a talent!
Re: 8D
Date: 2010-11-23 02:12 am (UTC)I don't know. I'd really want to sound all optimistic and say, "Oh, nothing is impossible if you really try!" and I suppose some things that we deemed impossible become possible when we do try, many, many times—of course with failing and picking ourselves back up as soon as it happens. I'm just not sure I want to take that path. Writing is fun as a side career, I'd say, and I think if you do that then you'll be doing what you want and doing what your family wants you to do at the same time… right? You don't seem hypocritical at all, actually.
Well, if you're good at those… then it should be fine for you to at least go through them. The subjects you take in high school do not determine what career you're taking, and although this might be a long stretch and a little strange, the course you take in college doesn't necessarily equal to your career, as well. My aunt took Chemistry in college and she's a businesswoman now, haha. :)
If I may know, is your dad working in the medical field? Because that tends to happen in Asian families… like, the child taking over the family business, or something. You don't have to answer if this is too personal or something.
Sorry for the lateish reply, by the way. My Internet has been driving me absolutely crazy! XD
Re: 8D
Date: 2010-11-27 10:29 pm (UTC)No, my dad isn't in the medical field. He moved to America around the time he should have been in university/college/etc back where he was born.
Our family doesn't really talk about it...politics, I guess? I know my Grandpa was imprisoned for his political role, but that's about it. =.=" They don't tell us 'kiddies' anything.
I'm Vietnamese, not a single drop of blood another ethnicity in me. I was born here in the States, though, and have never seen of the place my parents were born in.
The only person in our family that is in the medicals field is my dad's little sister who is a pharmacist, and my mom's sister who got her PH.D in Japan. She does stuff with...cells...and...stuff. :)
...At least... I think. O.O
Your words, advice, and knowledge are extremely kind. ♥ Totally understand about the internet. I hate it when it randomly shuts off and doesn't work again until the next day.
Re: 8D
Date: 2010-11-28 07:33 am (UTC)Ohh, I see. That's very interesting indeed. Wow, your Grandpa must be some kind of a big figure... And that's like my family, actually. No one ever tells us anything except my mom, and even then I have to sort of pull it out of her. Just out of curiosity, since you're born in the States, what language do you use with your parents?
Cells and stuff. Ha, all of my scientific knowledge escapes me. Not that I really have any to begin with @_@
No worries, dear. Just know that you can always talk to me about anything, one way or another ♥
Re: 8D
Date: 2010-11-28 10:41 pm (UTC)My grandpa was a lawyer? I think... O_-
Yeah, cells and stuff. >D Stuff is the easiest word to use when met with ... stuff.
Just like LOL and emoticons are used to fill in empty silences.
Re: 8D
Date: 2010-11-30 02:20 am (UTC)I like LOL. For some reason. I think I "LOL"ed a lot that there was this embarrassing moment in real life when I wanted to laugh, but all I said was, "LOL". @_@